Stop Lying to Yourself, We’re All Doing It

BY: MARC CHERNOFF

The mind is a wonderful thing.  It’s also a total liar and an excuse machine that frequently tries to convince us not to take actions we know are good for us.  In the end, this prevents many positive changes from taking place in our lives.

So why does the mind lie to us and make irrational excuses?

Because the mind wants comfort – that’s why.  It’s afraid of discomfort, pressure and change.  The mind is absorbed in its comfort zone, and anytime we try to stretch that zone too far, for too long, the mind tries desperately to get back to ground zero at any cost… including sacrificing our long-term health, happiness and success.

So let’s expose 10 of the cowardly mind’s most damaging lies and excuses once and for all:

  1. I can’t do it. – It seems too difficult at first, so you think you can’t stick to the positive change you’re making.  You don’t believe in yourself enough to take another step.
    Realise that your doubts and your faith have something in common – they both ask you to believe in something you can’t see.  You simply have to decide which one you want to believe.
  2. They can do it, but that doesn’t apply to me because they have it better than me. – It’s easy to find excuses: but look at all the other people who also have considerable obstacles and have done it anyway.  Stories abound of people with disabilities or illnesses who overcame their obstacles to achieve great things.  Your obstacles can be overcome.
  3. I’m stuck because I don’t have enough time to make changes. – The most important thing in life is knowing what the most important things in life are, and prioritizing them accordingly.  Most of us spend too much time on urgent things and not enough time on important things. Review your list.
  4. It’ll be too hard because I can’t get by without _______. – Whatever you use to fill the blank will be luxuries we convince ourselves we can’t live without, so we can justify not making positive changes like eating healthier or simplifying our lives Believing they’re needed is only getting in the way of the positive changes capable of being created.
  5. Life is meant to be easier and enjoyed more. – Sure, I agree that life should be enjoyed (as most people would) but the problem is that the idea that life should ALWAYS be easy and enjoyable is used to justify all kinds of lazy behaviour. There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.  As Einstein once said, “Genius is 1% talent and 99% percent hard work.”  You must run to be a runner.  You must write to be a writer. There is no substitute for doing the work.
  6. I deserve a reward (or a break). – We all deserve a tasty treat, or a day off.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t give yourself a reward or break when one is deserved.  But if you make this rationalization a primary rule for living, you’ll always be on a break.  See sticking to the plan as the reward itself. Going on a run isn’t the thing I have to get through to get a reward – the run is the reward.
  7. I can do it later. – Sure, you can always do it later… but your later self will feel the same exact way.  Think about it: Why should your later self be more disciplined than your present self? Just do it and let your actions speak for themselves.  Most great things in life don’t happen by chance, they happen by choice.
  8. One time won’t hurt. – This lie is so tempting, because it’s somewhat true – one time won’t hurt. Unfortunately, it’s never just one time.  One time means your brain now knows it can get away with this excuse next time too, and the next “one time” leads to another, until you’ve completely fallen off the wagon.  Decide your ‘one-time’ beforehand and build it into your plan – “I will allow myself a single serving of sweets once every weekend” and stick to your plan, rather than deciding on the fly when your conscience is weak.
  9. It’s better to quit now and cut my losses. – In the heat of the moment when you feel like quitting, think about how far you have come and why you started in the first place.  Oftentimes you’re a lot closer to making a breakthrough than you think. Bottom line: Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit – so KEEP GOING!
  10. It’s already too late. – Nothing is too late until your tired heart stops beating.  If you’re reading this right now, congratulations, you are alive, which means it’s not too late for you.  Things can change if you want them to at any age.  Right now you can choose differently and make something new happen.  Your future is immediate.  Grab on to it with both hands and keep on moving on.  When you come up on a roadblock and are faced with the choice of sitting down and doing nothing or doing something to make further progress, choose the latter.  Think, work, and climb if you have to.  Move your life forward. Today!

Original Post: MarcandAngel

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