You’ve probably had at least one time when you know you could’ve done better. Whether you wanted to keep a resolution, reach a goal, or do better on a project, it’s important to get back on track so you set the tone for all areas of your life.
You probably know what you’ve done to disappoint yourself, but take a moment to consider why. Is it because you disappointed someone else? Is it because you didn’t reach a goal you set for yourself? Are you putting too much weight on the things you’re trying to accomplish? Were your expectations poorly managed?
If you notice a negative shift in your normal attitude, get in touch with your emotions by asking yourself why you feel the way you do. Maybe you’re feeling stressed out by a project because you think you can do better—not because of the project itself. Try to zero in on the real issue rather than continuing to feel emotionally distressed.
As we’ve mentioned before, getting in touch with your emotions after failure can help a lot:
Failure can take a hefty emotional toll, and that’s okay. What’s important is getting the negative feelings you have out of your system so you can regroup and tackle what’s next. Don’t keep how you feel trapped inside of you like a shaken up soda.
If you know why you’re disappointed, you’ve got a head start on being able to make an action plan.
You might feel you shouldn’t try to move forward after disappointing yourself or others, but try to avoid using your disappointment as ammunition to keep yourself down. Instead, focus on the fact that you can learn from where you fell short and do better in the future.
Realize that just because you’ve disappointed yourself this time you’re not helpless to avoid it in the future. Use the emotions you’re feeling to motivate you to improve.
Review Your Past Actions and Adjust for the Future
Go over what happened so you can learn from the situation. Determine what your barriers to success were and how they contributed to you falling short of your standards. Some common behaviors and tendencies that lead to disappointment are:
- Poor time management and organisation
- No planing
- You overcommitted yourself
- Unrealistic expectations of yourself or others
The best way to prevent the same situation—and resulting disappointment—is to make a plan of action. Now that you have a list of your roadblocks, figure out how you can overcome each one. This won’t be easy, so start with the simplest one and go from there. You may not be able to get through this list quickly, but tackle even just one or two roadblocks ASAP to make some progress.
In order to defeat those roadblocks, you may need something you don’t currently have. You could need more knowledge, training, or tools, for example—and acquiring those will have to go into your action plan. As you formulate that plan, determine milestones to measure your progress, too. Whatever you do, do something. You’ll feel much better about your previous disappointment if you feel like you’re working to get better instead of staying stagnant.
You’ve put in a lot of work to create a solid action plan for yourself, make sure you stick to it. One way to ensure success is to set reasonable and meaningful goal. James Clear explains why meaningful goals are key to your success:
It’s remarkable how much time people spend chasing things that they don’t really care about. Then, when they don’t achieve them, they beat themselves up and feel like a failure for not achieving something that wasn’t important to them all along.
You only have so much energy to put towards the next 24 hours. Pick a habit that you care about. If it really matters to you, then you’ll find a way to make it work.
Use the milestones you built into your action plan to create checkpoints for yourself.
It can be difficult to overcome failure, especially when you’re the one who set the standards in the first place. Stick to these steps and you can avoid future disappointment.